My father in law and mother in law always invade our privacy and decision making in our life with my husband. And they think this is because they are protecting us. We don't have any issues with my

Subject: Urgent Discussion - Regarding Respectful Boundaries in Our Relationship Dear [Father-in-law and Mother-in-law’s Names], I hope you're well. I wanted to discuss something important with you two that's been bothering [Your husband’s name] and me for a while. Firstly, I want you to know that my intention in bringing this up is not to offend or upset anyone, but to maintain openness and honesty in our relationships. There's no doubt that you care for us deeply and that your actions are borne out of a desire to protect us. This love you extend to us is genuinely appreciated, and I don’t want to belittle that affection in any way. However, I would like us all to appreciate that [Your husband’s name], and I, as a couple, need to lead our own lives, make our own decisions, and occasionally, learn from our mistakes. Even though your protective instincts are to hold us close and guide our decisions, this can sometimes feel like an invasion of our privacy. Perhaps, unintentionally, it impacts our autonomy and self-governance, creating tension and occasional disagreements between [your husband’s name] and me, which is hard on our relationship. I want to ask you for your understanding and reassurances that you will respect our decisions and our right to make them independently, without feeling the need to offer advice unless we specifically ask for it. This trust and respect, I believe, will not diminish our bond in any way but deepen it by fostering open communication and mutual respect. The recent phone call incident where we were discussing a topic that is still to evolve for [Your husband’s name] and me reiterated the fact that we need our space in the decision-making process. I want to clarify that any annoyance or anger on my part during the call was not directed towards either of you, but due to the ongoing pressure we have been feeling. I never intended to upset or hurt you; if it came across so, I sincerely apologize for the misunderstanding. Regarding [Your husband’s name] and his feelings, he values and respects you both immensely. It is important to him that his parents are not upset because of him. While it's wonderful for him to have such respect for his parents, equating your happiness with his respect might not be healthy. It's possible to respectfully disagree and make independent decisions without being disrespectful. To have a tranquil and harmonious relationship, it is crucial for us to acknowledge that being family doesn’t necessarily mean we are always right, or our opinions are the only ones that count. We all have different perspectives based on our experiences. Accepting this fact and allowing space for differing viewpoints without taking it as a personal affront is an essential aspect of maintaining healthy relationships. Once again, I want to emphasize that we greatly value your love and concern for us. We are not asking you to stop caring or being involved. It's simply a matter of balancing involvement and allowing us our personal space. Let's have a conversation about this when we are all feeling calm and open-minded. Please remember that we are addressing this because our relationship with you is important to us, and we want to keep it healthy and positive for the future. Thank you for taking the time to read this and for considering our perspective. Warm Regards, [Your Name]