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[Your name] [Your address] [City, State, ZIP Code] [Email Address] [Phone Number] [Date] [Ex’s Name] [Ex’s address] [City, State, ZIP Code] Dear [Ex’s Name], I hope this letter finds you with an open heart and mind, and I want you to know that every word I write comes from a place of deep care and concern. There's no easy way to say this, and I can only imagine how much pain you must be in right now to feel that ending your life is the only solution. But please, please take a moment to hear me out, to read these words, and to consider the impact that your loss would have on all of us, especially our three beautiful children. Even though we are no longer together, you still mean a great deal to me. We have shared so much life together, and nothing can erase the memories we have or the incredible family we created. You’ve always been a good father, and the bond you share with our kids is irreplaceable. They love you more than words can express, and the thought of losing you would be an unimaginable, crippling blow to them. Have you seen the way their faces light up when you walk into the room? Have you noticed how our youngest, especially, clings to you, how your presence brings joy and security beyond measure? No one can fill the void that would be left in their hearts if you left us. They need you, [Ex’s Name]. They need your guidance, your love, your support, and your presence. No one else can be their father the way you are. Our oldest looks up to you with so much admiration. They are beginning to navigate through the complexities of adolescence, and your influence is more critical now than ever. They need you to teach them about resilience, about how to face life's challenges and come out stronger. Your departure would shatter their sense of stability and trust in the world. Our middle child, with their sensitive heart, would be completely lost without you. They rely on you to be their anchor, their source of strength when emotions run high. Who will be there to pick them up, to tell them it's going to be okay, to help them understand that they are loved and valued beyond measure if you're not around? And as for our youngest, their world revolves around you. The bond that you've nurtured with them is something so precious, so unique, that I cannot bear the thought of it being severed. They look to you as their hero. How would they ever process the magnitude of such a loss at such a tender age? What kind of foundation would they have to build their future on, knowing that the person they admired the most chose to leave? Children don’t understand adult struggles to the same extent that we do, and they would likely blame themselves in part, wondering if there was something they could’ve done differently or if they somehow caused your pain. This burden is too much for a child to bear. It is a darkness too profound for their young hearts and minds to navigate. They would carry the grief, the confusion, and the scars for the rest of their lives. Beyond just the logical and abstract understanding of loss, there is a profound emotional connection at play here. They share your hopes, your dreams, your triumphs, and failures. They learn from your experiences, good and bad. They want to grow up to be like you and to seek your approval and love in everything they do. Their identity is tied to yours in beautiful, intricate ways. Please don’t take that from them. Please don’t leave them to walk through life always wondering why their dad left them. And for me, [Ex’s Name], I can't bear the thought of you not being in this world. Despite everything, despite our differences, I care about you deeply. I want nothing but the best for you because you deserve happiness and peace. I know we've had our share of struggles, but I have always believed in your potential to overcome them. I’ve seen your strength, your kindness, and your ability to love. Life has thrown you some incredibly tough challenges, but ending it all is not the answer. You have so much to live for, even if it doesn't feel that way right now. There are moments of joy yet to be experienced, memories yet to be made, and milestones yet to be celebrated with our children. They need you at their graduations, at their weddings, and there for the birth of your grandchildren one day. They need to share those magical moments with you because your presence makes everything better. I know it's hard right now, and it probably feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, crushing you. But there is help out there. There are people who want to support you, who are trained to help you through this pain. Reach out to them, talk to someone about what you’re going through. You are not alone in this; you don’t have to carry this burden by yourself. Talk to me, if you can. Maybe our relationship didn’t last, but our connection never fades as co-parents and friends. I am here for you, ready to listen, ready to support you in any way that I possibly can. We might have our differences, but I still believe in you, and I want you to see the light at the end of this dark tunnel. You are stronger than you think, and there is always hope. Even the darkest nights end with the dawn. Think about the legacy you want to leave for our kids. Think about the countless ways in which you can impact their lives positively, guide them, love them, and be their role model. Think about the strength you can show them by fighting through this pain and coming out the other side. That’s the father they need, and that’s the father I believe you can be. This world is a better place with you in it, and your children’s world revolves so much around you. Taking that away from them would be a wound that never heals, a void that can never be filled. Please, for their sake and for yours, choose to stay. Choose to fight. Choose to live. I pray that you find the strength and the will to continue this journey because it's not over yet. There are still beautiful chapters waiting to be written in your story, and our children need you to be a part of them. You’ve got this, [Ex’s Name]. We all believe in you. With all my heart, [Your name]