Clarifying Our Relationship and Shared Expectations

Dear [His Name], I hope this letter finds you well and in good spirits. I wanted to take some time to express something that has been on my mind and heart for a while. I truly value the relationship we have and the bond we share, which is why I feel it's important to honestly communicate my feelings with you. Lately, there have been moments when our conversations have left me feeling hurt and diminished. Specifically, when you call me "stupid" or when you place full responsibility on me for your actions, it hurts deeply. I understand that we all have moments of frustration and stress, but these words and actions make me feel undervalued and disrespected. I strive to support you to the best of my ability because I care for you and our relationship deeply. However, it's not always possible for me to be the unwavering rock you might need at all times. I'm human, with my own set of challenges and vulnerabilities. When I'm unable to meet every expectation you have of me, it doesn't mean I am inadequate or not trying hard enough. Your words impact me more than I think you may realize. Calling me names and attributing all responsibility to me when things go wrong isn't just onerous; it is also emotionally draining. It makes me feel less than who I am and questions my self-worth. I don't believe that anyone should feel this way, especially in a relationship built on love and mutual respect. I'm sharing this with you because I believe in us and I want us to grow together in a healthy and loving way. I am always open to constructive conversations where we can understand each other better and support each other more effectively. Your understanding and positive reinforcement mean the world to me, and I hope we can find a way to communicate that fosters love and respect rather than hurt. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope we can move forward in a way that strengthens our relationship and makes us both feel valued and supported. With love, [Your Name]