Title: "In the Shadows of Possession"

Prompt: My (24M) girlfriend (21F) fully believes that she is an old man who possessed her. Tl;dr: gf now thinks an old man has possessed and refuses to see anything wrong with the situation. The echo chamber she is now has done nothing but enable her and I don't know what to do. I know people are going to think I'm either trolling or baiting but please read before you comment + this post has nothing to do with gender or trans issues and I am in no way intending to be offensive or anything. So Gf named Sydney and I have been together for nearly 8 months, and she's always been a very quirky and nerdy person: goes on a lot of runs, very into anime and roleplaying, etc... Nothing too weird. We've been kinda distant lately with everything going on and me being an essential worker so haven't seen eachother and only talk for half an hour a day. Well, last tuesday we got to hang out at her place and she wore super revealing clothing the entire time. At first I thought it was either going to be a sex surprise or her testing a new cosplay, but nope, she sat me down, asked me if I really do love her, then hit me with a very long monologue that essentially summed up to "I'm an old man and I possessed your girlfriends body as my new body". Wish I was joking. I thought I misunderstood and then believed that maybe it was a weird joke but she kept being serious about it, and doubling down. I left shortly after because I had a shift at work, and I still believed it was an oddly drawn out joke nothing more. She ended up texting me with resources to help me understand, which is when I realized that she really is serious. Apparently she believes she is possessed: a person who holds the belief that they are not the original person who inhabited the body. She says she was met my girlfriend months ago decided to take her body as “his” own after seeing how young and pretty she was and has since joined discords and communities of others like her. Her friend believes he is a young girl trapped in a male body, and she sent me a testimonial that was supposed to be touching but its basically just about a dude thinking he is a middle aged mom. I'm not joking. She explained her possession type as being an old homeless man, and now she 100% thinks she was a man. How did she know she was used to be an old man you ask? According to her: sleeping a lot, loving being young again, hating other old people, feeling more comfortable having breasts than a flat chest (her breasts are very large), and claiming to understand life is all about which is why she wanted a new start as a college girl with big boobs. She has also apparently been distant with nearly everybody we know IRL as I got multiple messages asking me to let her know to be in touch with them. My head has been spiraling this past week, I keep thinking its a joke but nope she is deathly serious about this and has handed in her two weeks resignation at her job because old men don't work. Again, I wish I was joking. I've been limiting my interactions with her ever since, because this is hurting my head a whole lot and I just can't cope. She has also surrounded herself with a large amount of yes men and women who support her 100% and are enabling this, some even encouraging her to make a patreon and make possession content that they would contribute to, which she brought up when I asked her about quitting her job. To make things worse, I can't discuss this with anyone in real life because I know how crazy it sounds and I know that leaving her is a valid option but I'm in love with this woman and now I don't recognize her and I know that there is something very very wrong and I can't reach out to her and she refuses to hear anything from me unless it is unconditional support. What the fuck do i do ? EDIT: Just got off work and was very surprised with the amount of comments, I honestly just expected a bunch calling me crazy. I'm reading through them now and I want to say thank you to everybody who took the time out of their day to give me advice, I truly appreciate it. To address some things: \- Her and I have been friends for 2+ years prior to dating, so that is why I am reluctant to just up and leave. \- I've read a comment asking if she has a history of mental illness, and not to my knowledge? Aside from her being diagnosed with mild social anxiety in high school. I am going to try and reach out to her mom to get her to check up on her, and maybe even visit. They have a good relationship, so maybe that will help. \- Yesterday was the first time I truly confronted what was going on, as I have been kind of shelving it and just praying and hoping it was some kind of drawn out joke. But now that I've had time to truly ponder it, I think it has been a long time coming. She's been buying a lot of popular busty female actress memorabilia and a lot of her cosplays are revealing, and now that I think about it...well, yeah. \-I don't know who middle aged mom man really is, all I know is that he has been part of her virtual group since last year. Also so far no picture, sorry to disappoint/relieve some of you. When I asked her about her plans as a "old man" other than quitting her job, she had sent me her to do list which I didn't bother opening or reading until yesterday because I was too busy wishing all of this was a fever dream. The To do list includes purchasing a lot of bikinis, opening our relationship because she wants girl on girl action, and dying her hair blonde because loves the busty blonde stereotypes. Yup. \-As much as it hurts, I have no intention to continue to be in a romantic relationship with her because she will absolutely not hear anything if it's not 100% support. She wants me to accept that she used to be an old man named Michael and that he had always wanted to be a gorgeous woman with large breasts and hasn’t had the chance until now. I love her, but I love myself and I don't want to be dragged down to something like this especially when it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall. I will however try to remain in contact with her just to make sure she's not spiraling towards a mental break. I will visit her today to have a talk and officially break it off even though she's been refusing to see me unless I am completely on board, I will update if anything interesting happens. Then I will buy a couple of bottles of alcohol and down them in my flat, no judgement. Hello, it’s me again. The man from reddit with the old man girlfriend. Well, ex-girlfriend now. My previous post has made its way to Instagram, Facebook and Twitter so I figured I’d give one final update before logging out of this account and never coming back. I was supposed to visit my now ex on Friday, but didn’t end up doing so until yesterday. I wanted to talk face to face, and to get back some of the stuff I’ve left behind at her house. The meeting didn’t go well, she was very adamant that anything that wasn’t full on support was a personal attack and invalidating to her identity. I’ve tried to ask questions, some of which she answered, some not. She had intended to move in with me because in her best case scenario, « I would truly love her and want to support her in living her truth », and that would include me assuming a sort of caretaker role. She has enough savings to last her a while, since her job was pretty lucrative, but she is now planning on moving in with three other people from her possession discord to get the true support she deserves. The dude whose name is apparently Azan and another girl and her boyfriend, for a true sense of community. I don’t know if that’s codeword for polyamory. I brought up therapy but she got really mad over it, saying she doesn’t need it because she is not ill and this is an innate part of her that has been there since she my ex’s body years ago. Also, her apartment is now more populated with super girly stuff as she has spent nearly 900 Euros over various things, which made me concerned over her new spending habits and how long her savings will last. Objects purchased include: a lot of bras, a very large image of herself grabbing her breasts, and makeup. That’s what I could see in the living room anyways. I left her place with my stuff and then called her mom afterwards. I didn’t say anything about the ordeal, but told her that her daughter and I broke up and that she fell in with a pretty weird group and has now quit her job with no warning and no backup plan, and is also intending to move in with 3 other people I’ve never met or seen. Her mom seemed to take me seriously, and said she’s been concerned lately since they’ve been talking less than usual lately but she chalked it up to quarantine. I told her that she should really visit her in person and stay with her for at least a week, and she said she would. I also texted three of her friends, and told them that we broke up and that she is going through a very rough patch and that she needs them to be there for her and that they should contact and call her and try to visit when they can. Didn’t tell them anything about her quitting her job and wanting to move in with mister Azan. Hopefully her mom and friends can do more good than me, and that she’d be willing to listen to them or at least concede some points. Because she was told by her internet friends and supporters that if her partner isn’t ready to fully validate and uplift her no questions asked, then I am toxic and abusive. A lot of people might think I’m personally not doing enough, but our relationship was built on mutual trust and respect and I have been getting none of those things. I’m not interested in this lifestyle and never will be, and I can’t force her to get help or go to therapy because at the end of the day, she is a 21 year old woman. And to add another thing, I don’t believe all possessed people are this unhinged, but everybody on the discord server falls into the extreme side of this subculture, some left their spouses and children, others stopped taking their meds and some are engaging in very harmful behavior. Obviously 40+ of them being in the same echo chamber egging each other on will only lead to disastrous results. To address some comments and private messages I’ve seen calling me a negligent abuser for not knowing about her discord friends and dismissing her whenever she tried to have a conversation after she « came out », and an obvious workaholic for not giving her enough attention during last month: I am a med equipment's repair tech, I’ve barely had enough time to scratch my own head lately. Yes, I wasn’t the most available I’ll admit that, but I’ve always made sure to talk to her at least once a day. When it comes to her friends, I am on good terms with all her IRL ones but she rarely mentions her online ones except the virtual group members. As for how I handled conversations after her « coming out », I was freaked out and in disbelief, and every question I asked was met with hostility as if I was questioning just an everyday totally normal occurrence. Also, if you’re telling me you wouldn’t exit the conversation and lock your phone after your girlfriend starts talking to you about how much she loves her new body. Also, this whole thing is apparently more common than I thought, although not quite to this extreme and usually happens to high school kids. To close it off, I have a fair amount of whiskey on my table and all the people commenting with references convinced me to watch It’s always sunny for a good laugh. My friend and her wife invited me to go with them to her dad’s cabin next weekend, and in a month or two I’ll probably get on Tinder. My ex has started posting pictures and videos of her trying to make money off of social media. It’s kind of working as she has gained a fairly large following although a lot of them are horny old men who see her large breasts and immediately get infatuated. She’s also started dating one of her friends who was not part of this possessed community, I actually found the friend quite pretty and I’m not sure how my ex got in with her, and my ex sent a picture where they’re both in bikinis and her new girlfriend is cupping my exes breasts and they both have smug looks on their faces. The text read “this is what is what you’re missing out on”. So other than that my life sucks but I’ll get over it. As for the old man that’s now my apparently lesbian ex girlfriend I wish you all the best.